Helpful Information About Hakomi
The thing that makes Hakomi very different from other types of talk therapies is the use of mindfulness and what we call “little experiments”.
Firstly Hakomi practitioners help you to feel welcome, comfortable and at ease. Hakomi therapists understand how important it is for healing, for therapists to be very warm, kind and patient. For the method to work well it is vital to feel well supported, connection with and trust in your therapist – so I spend as much time as needed to build a good rapport.
When it is right for you and at a pace that works for you I will introduce mindfulness and offer the possibility of a "little experiement".
Mindfulness is simply turning your attention quietly inwards so that you can notice what arises inside without judgement. It is a way of watching ourselves or witnessing whatever is happening, in the present moment. Mindfulness enables you to become calm and centred enough to notice and observe your own reactions, a bit like observing the automatic behaviour of another person. Ron Kurtz Hakomi founder says nothing is as helpful in psychotherapy as mindfulness.
Hakomi practitioners are trained to play very close attention to non-verbal behaviours like tone of voice, gestures, postures, movements and facial expressions – these all give the therapist ideas and clues to what inner beliefs/core material may be impacting on your life. Once in mindfulness, when you are ready and on the basis of these ideas/clues I am then able to create a little experiment, often just saying some words. The words may be something like “you are welcome here” or “you are safe here” or “you are a good person”. In our everyday state nothing much would likely happen but in the mindful state the little experiment will often bring forth a clear reaction, it may be an emotional reaction such as sadness, longing, joy. The reactions are links to the inner beliefs, past losses or pain that create the reaction. Once the reaction happens, moments later memories, beliefs and associations often emerge and together we can start to make sense of the reaction. This means the reactions, beliefs and memories are now conscious. Once they are conscious, with sensitive support they can then be shared, explored, feelings expressed, experiences acknowledged. And then choice, healing and transformation become possible.
Hakomi is a deeply respectful therapy and is always led and guided by you and your inner wisdom. The intention is to create an experience of greater freedom, choice and relief from unnecessary suffering through knowing yourself. Change becomes possible and can occur naturally and gently from the inside out.
Ron Kurtz the founder of Hakomi has written an article that clients new to Hakomi may find useful - the article can be found here.